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‘Other woman’ rebuilds her life after affair fizzles

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 38-year-old woman who used to be nice. Then I had a three-year affair. Knowing I’m one of America’s bigger fools – and for such a long time – is infuriating, but I finally saw the light. The only person I think is a bigger fool than me is his wife.
Some “highlights” of our romance: He gave me an STD during spring break, I found “Ally’s” phone number in his contact file, and I saw a blonde in a white convertible drop him off in front of his house at 9:15 in the morning, which, according to him, “never happened.” My eyes don’t lie. After I was struck by a car in a crosswalk, he never once called me to see how I was. After that, his teenage son followed me around town flipping me off and shouting obscenities at me. There’s more, but I’ll spare you.
Please warn your readers to stay away from affairs. They demean you, your mate will lose trust in you, and the person you’re having the affair with – can that person ever really be trusted? Won’t he cheat on you, too? This “wonderful” man is an elementary school teacher. (Think about what he is teaching your kids, folks!)
Like I said, I used to be nice. I used to care and trust. No more! This man changed not only my entire life but also my family’s. Will I ever forgive MYSELF?
P.S. I have spent thousands of dollars for counseling. It’s a lot of money, but I am worth it. – FINALLY SAW THE LIGHT

DEAR FINALLY: Love may be blind, but I’m pleased you finally saw the light. I’m also pleased that you realized you needed professional help to regain some self-esteem. Your bitterness jumps off the pages of your letter. If you work on that with your counselor, too, it will be money well spent.

DEAR ABBY: I was widowed 10 years ago after 34 years of marriage. My late husband’s sister, “Barbara,” who is also now a widow with no children or other family, considers me her sister and friend. Abby, I have NEVER felt close to her. We are very different, and neither my husband nor I had any real contact with her other than occasional holiday gatherings.
Barbara is a domineering, self-pitying hypochondriac with no friends left she hasn’t alienated. We live fairly near each other, and I have the feeling since the loss of her husband three years ago that she’s expecting me to be her companion and caregiver going into her elder years. I’d slit my wrists first!
I married my husband “until death do us part,” not his family. I don’t want to hurt Barbara’s feelings; I just want to enjoy my own senior years. How can I gently remove myself from Barbara’s game plan? – DIDN’T SIGN UP FOR THIS

DEAR DIDN’T SIGN UP: “Gently” remove yourself from Barbara’s game plan by being increasingly less available. She may be strong-willed and domineering, but you do NOT have to knuckle under to her wishes or be a dumping ground for her problems.
If she asks to get together, be busy. If she’s depressed, suggest grief counseling, which has helped so many. If she suggests you help her going into her declining years, explain that won’t be possible because you plan to travel. You do not have to be cruel or heavy-handed about standing up for yourself. Just hang on to your sense of humor and keep your distance.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Edwards warns against intentional COVID infection

As the COVID-19 Omicron surge continues to break infection records across Louisiana, Gov. John Bel Edwards shared concerns Thursday morning about people considering getting deliberately infected with the disease in an attempt to get natural immunity.
Edwards said the Omicron surge may be reportedly less virulent than previous variants, but it is still hospitalizing people in record numbers, including record numbers of children.
That includes children below the age of 5, who cannot receive vaccines.
Edwards said some people believe that they should catch the disease to “get it and get it over with,” but he noted that people have no way to know how severely their bodies will react to the disease.
He called such decisions “irresponsible and dangerous.” On top of that, Edwards said such behaviors could have disastrous effects on the state’s hospital systems and could promote the spread of the disease to others who do not wish to catch it.
Edwards said as of today, the state’s hospitalizations for COVID have eclipsed the numbers set in Jan. 2021 — 2,081 people today vs. 2,069 a year ago.
The height of hospitalizations was in Aug. 2021 with over 3,000 hospitalizations, though Edwards said more children are being hospitalized now than at the height of the delta surge.
The governor also said the Louisiana Department of Health will also start tracking COVID reinfections on the state’s dashboard next week. Since the start of the pandemic, around 35,000 people have caught COVID more than once. Of those people, 60% between September and December 2021 were unvaccinated.
Edwards said the state’s current public health emergency proclamation expires Jan. 19.
The governor said he plans to extend that proclamation. At this time, he said he does not expect to change the state’s mitigation efforts or reinstate any mandates, though he said that decision will be based on the strain on the state’s hospital system.

ConnectLA receives nearly $450M in funding requests

ConnectLA has received applications from 23 companies for the first round of the Granting Unserved Municipalities Broadband Opportunities program.
The total funding request for the applications is $440 million, with $711 million in total project costs and an average of 40% of total project costs in matching funds. With applications coming from 58 parishes, this figure represents requests for broadband projects in every corner of the state.
In addition, the proposed applications seek to provide high speed internet to 215,000 households and 14,000 businesses.
The Acadia Parish Police Jury has committed $3 million in matching grant funds to a pair of companies for broadband expansion in the rural areas of the parish.
The GUMBO grant program was launched to assist the nearly 450,000 Louisiana residents without adequate broadband speeds. The grant program is a key step in delivering access to these residents, connecting them to opportunities in healthcare, education and the workforce.
In addition, the projects will create a tremendous number of job opportunities as these projects are constructed and maintained over the next several years. Employment opportunities will extend to students throughout Louisiana, as applicants have worked with numerous technical and community colleges to develop workforce plans.
“The volume of applications we’ve received and the enthusiasm for broadband we’ve encountered from municipalities throughout the state reaffirms just how important our work is to Louisiana,” Veneeth Iyengar, ConnectLA executive director, said. “As we review applications and grant awards in the following months, we will grow closer to our goal of eliminating the digital divide by 2029.”
ConnectLA is using third-party reviewers to evaluate each application with objective scoring metrics. These 23 metrics will evaluate a wide range of subjects, including experience, technical ability, financial wherewithal, provider matching funds, number of households/businesses served, scalability and small business entrepreneurship. All applications are public and can be accessed at gumbo.la.gov.
Nearly $90 million will be granted in the first round of GUMBO funding. Awards will be announced in March with construction starting as soon as May.
Additionally, ConnectLA will begin the application period for the second round of GUMBO funding in July, allowing for the construction of even more broadband projects in unserved areas of Louisiana.
In total, the $177 million for local providers to build out broadband infrastructure will potentially benefit more than 125,000 locations in Louisiana over the next two to three years, positioning our state for success in the 21st century.

N.D. sets annual Dining Extravaganza

Notre Dame High School of Acadia Parish has announced that tickets are now available for the 2022 Dining Extravaganza.
The fun-filled annual culinary feast will be held on Tuesday, March 22, at the Grand Opera House. Cocktails will begin at 6 p.m. followed by the most delectable dishes prepared and provided by some of Acadiana’s finest restaurants as well as both silent and live auctions.
Tickets are $100 per couple and include dinner and drinks. Only 125 tickets will be sold.
Tables of eight may be reserved in advance. For more information or to purchase tickets, please call the Development Office at Notre Dame at 783-7143.
Notre Dame High School of Acadia Parish is a co-ed Roman Catholic High School accredited by the Southern Association of Colleges & Schools, Louisiana Department of Education and the Diocese of Lafayette whose mission is to educate its students in mind, body and soul with the love of Jesus, the discipline of Joseph and the faith of Mary.

Two from Acadia arrested

Pair charged in recent shooting in Vermilion

Two Acadia Parish men, one from Rayne and one from Crowley, have been arrested in connection with a New Year’s Eve shooting in Vermilion Parish.
According to Vermilion Parish Sheriff’s Office Public Information Officer Eddie Langlinais, on Dec. 31, 2021, the Vermilion Parish Sheriff’s Office received a call of a shooting that occurred in the 300 block of Lover’s Lane, south of Abbeville.
When Vermilion Parish Sheriff’s Office Criminal Investigation Division (CID) detectives arrived on scene, they discovered two vehicles and a residence had been shot 14 times with a .22 caliber firearm.
During the course of the investigation, detectives identified a suspect vehicle and confirmed the driver of the vehicle as Craig Dewon Batiste, 21, of Rayne.
Through further investigation of the incident, detectives developed information identifying the shooter as Johnathan Brian Lee, 20, of Crowley.
On Jan. 7, with the assistance of the Rayne Police Department, Bastiste was taken into custody without incident and booked into the Vermilion Parish Correctional Center on a warrant for assault by drive-by shooting.
His bond was set at $50,000.
A subsequent search warrant was conducted on Batiste’s residence where detectives located a .22-caliber rifle with a large-capacity magazine.
On Jan. 11, with the assistance of the Acadia Parish Sheriff’s Office, Lee was taken into custody without incident and booked into the Vermilion Parish Correctional Center on a warrant for attempted first-degree murder and illegal discharge of a firearm.
His bond was set at $150,000 on the first-degree murder charge and $25,000 on the discharging of a firearm charge.
This investigation is still ongoing, and additional charges may follow.
“I commend my deputies for a job well done, and I thank the Acadia Parish Sheriff’s Office and the Rayne Police Department for their assistance in this investigation,” says Sheriff Mike Couvillon.

Council OKs zoning requests

Each had received a favorable recommendation from the city Planning Commission.
Shandell Mansion asked for a “conditional use” designation to relocate Delynn’s Barber Shop to newly purchased property at 929 W. Northern Ave with the stipulations of one barber chair and proper residential signage. The new location has a guest house in the back yard which Mansion wanted to use as the barber shop.
That guest house was a sticking point for some.
Alderman Brad Core argued that, according to city ordinance, the shop must be located within the main building for a variance to be granted. “Our ordinance does not allow for the business to be in a separate building,” he said. “We’re setting a precedent that we will allow commercial use in separate buildings.”
But Mayor Tim Monceaux contended that Mansion was requesting a “conditional use” designation, not a variance and Code Enforcement Officer Tony Duhon agreed.
City Attorney Tom Regan, who was unable to attend the meeting but was watching it from home, called Monceaux to backup the mayor and Duhon.
“She did not ask for a ‘home occupancy’ variance. She asked for conditional use,” Monceaux translated from the cell phone. “And she has met all requirements.”
Core conceded, “If Mr. Regan says it’s OK, it’s good with me.”
Mansion’s request was granted unanimously.
The second recommendation from the Planning Commission was to approve a variance that would allow Third Crop Properties, LLC, to encroach 4 feet onto utility right-of-way for a building structure along the east side of Avenue C between West Mill Street and West Elm Street.
Again, it was Core who led the discussion, asking if the property in question belonged to the city and, if so, shouldn’t the city sell it instead of allowing the business to use it.
“Has this ever been done in the past?” he asked.
Monceaux said it had. “It’s been a long time, but the city has done this in the past.”
The mayor pointed to similar action on Avenue D north from Mill Street to the Railroad tracks and on Front Street south to the tracks.
Regan, again via cell phone, added that a similar variance had been granted to Cajun Bag.
The request was approved.
In somewhat related action, the council introduced an ordinance to abandon West Elm Street west of the west line of South Avenue C.
A public hearing on the proposed ordinance will be held at the Feb. 9 council meeting.

Melvin "Peanut" Moreau Jr.

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Mildred Gautreaux Leger

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Tourist Commission welcomes new member, re-elects slate of officers

With the start of the new year also came the arrival of a new member, the election of officers for a new term and the start of a new set of bylaws for the Acadia Parish Tourist Commission.
Megan Duhon was sworn in as the newest member of the board by Crowley City Judge M’elise Trahan.
Duhon replaces former member Amy Thibodeaux as the representative from the Acadia Parish Chamber of Commerce.
The board also re-elected its “old” officers for a new term during Thursday morning’s meeting.
Bart Wild will continue to serve as chairman with Suzette Leonards as vice chair. Duhon, who stepped in “unofficially” for Thibodeaux in December, will continue as secretary-treasurer, the office previously held by Thibodeaux.
“We all have a good working relationship and everything’s moving along just fine,” said Commissioner Keith Henry in nominating the three. “I think we should just keep things like they are.”
The commissioners agreed.
The commission also is taking a look at its bylaws as they relate to the terms of office for at-large members.
Through legislative action in 2021, the commission expanded the number of at-large seats it is allowed to have from two to three, though a third seat has not yet been filled.
Currently, the bylaws limit the at-large members to two consecutive two-year terms, those terms to be staggered.
It was suggested that the terms be extended to three years, staggered, and that the two-term limit be lifted.
That and other tweaks to the bylaws will be presented to the full board for adoption at a meeting later this year.

Robert “Bob” Myers

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